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Jun 6Liked by Max Leyf

Not sure sounds like a love sonnet to me and somehow that feeling of desire does sort of turn one into a feather leaving your bones hollow and a feeling of emptiness even when it is not unrequited there is still that sense that there should be more something deeper something besides ….it is like intuitively we know that this love we are receiving from another did not come from them they are not its source certainly they may be a wonderful vessel and even not hold back but we just know this isn ‘t all. So we continue our search hopefully not casting off their love or being shaken when our love is cast off but just accepting a change in the current hoping it will bring you to the Sea! 🌊

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I read your comment several times to savor your insight and perspicacity. Yes, “in me dwelleth no good thing,” as Saint Paul says, so to the extent I love, that’s God loving in me. I loved my fiancé that way, without fear, and she ended it for us unexpectedly on Sunday evening. I don’t blame her because she is suffering with her own inner challenges, but the shock was obviously very painful. But “the LORD giveth and the LORD taketh away, blessed be the name of the LORD.” I drank the wine of love for a time, and now it’s changed bitter tears, but if it is my cup to drink, then I will drink it.

The image was inspired by this quote I found in when I read Boethius’ The Consolation of Philosophy:

"What is it, then, poor mortal, that hath cast thee into lamentation and mourning? Some strange, unwonted sight, methinks, have thine eyes seen. Thou deemest Fortune to have changed towards thee; thou mistakest. Such ever were her ways, ever such her nature. Rather in her very mutability hath she preserved towards thee her true constancy. Such was she when she loaded thee with caresses, when she deluded thee with the allurements of a false happiness. Thou hast found out how changeful is the face of the blind goddess. She who still veils herself from others hath fully discovered to thee her whole character. If thou likest her, take her as she is, and do not complain. If thou abhorrest her perfidy, turn from her in disdain, renounce her, for baneful are her delusions. The very thing which is now the cause of thy great grief ought to have brought thee tranquillity. Thou hast been forsaken by one of whom no one can be sure that she will not forsake him. Or dost thou indeed set value on a happiness that is certain to depart?"

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Jun 6Liked by Max Leyf

I love that quote! Such beautiful language and it says so perfectly what I was stumbling about. Human love is changeable and I am so sorry that you and your fiancée are not together now prayers for you. When I look back over my life it is when I have quit or betrayed someone that hurts the most the fault was in me, it is much easier for me to accept someone hurting me or betraying me than the remedy is simpler - forgive them. I think that human love comes from God and some just have a stronger foundation and greater access or connection others have polluted the stream or narrowed it sort of but it is still from God and therefore can not ever be stopped or obliterated it merely changes course like a river still making it way to the Sea. It seems to me anyway. I have found it is so much easier for me to love someone for who they are when I have absolutely zero expectations of them of course I am old. Praying for you friend.

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thank you, Holly; that is very wise ☺️

I really appreciate your comments

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